Turning....

 ....could mean a lot of things. Tuning back, changing course or direction, changing your affiliations and loyalties or it could also simply mean turning a decade older, which is something I'm celebrating this year! As I turn 40, I've taken this milestone year to do a variety of things to reconnect with myself and those that I value most. On top of the milestone birthday, the culmination of the pandemic has also given me a reason to stop, think and introspect. 

A big piece of me trying to reconnect with loved ones this year was to spend quality time with closest of my friends - I'd hate to label them "best" , aren't all good friends best ones? 

J, N and I have know each other for more than half of our living lives. We met in our late teens in undergrad and grew up through our early twenties with completely different things happening around us. One of us got married young(er), one found a soul mate in her first shot at love, and one was having a hard time finding contentment in love. Who was going through what - well, that will be unsaid here :). Despite these differences in our younger years, we spent most of our 30s going through very similar things - learning how to co-exist in a country we are not from, birthing and raising kids, building and re-building careers, rediscovering what friendships look like. I've been lucky enough to have these two in my life at arm's length or a phone call away any given day. So celebrating my milestone birthday with these two was a big must-do for me.  

Our last time getting together as a group of friends was pre-pandemic, so naturally there was excitement around seeing one another in person again. We added to the excitement by landing on a solid itinerary - a road trip from Las Vegas to Grand Canyon, followed by a couple nights of fun in Las Vegas. Further excitement was added by means of a playlist - we managed to put together 8 hours of music of all types of songs going back to our favs from college to the latest pop hits. There was depth and quality too, mind you ! Being able to live out this play list of course was an integral part of the the experience - so when we rented a car and it did not play from the phone blue-tooth we made sure we returned it and got a different one that did have better audio support. Priorities, priorities....

The road trip involved a couple hundred miles of driving, which I am very proud to say I did wholeheartedly. In the background was beautiful scenery, wonderful music,  deep conversations, gossip, retrospection and discussion on what life brought to us and what made us happy or otherwise. Exploring scenic views and places along the way was part of the fun of course - including lunch at a authentic ( and clean!) Punjabi Dhaba  (of all places, in Kingman,AZ!!) 

Grand Canyon did not disappoint - how could it! Enjoying sunrise and sunset in the company of cherished friends is something I'll always remember. We all took time to enjoy the grandeur of the canyon in our own moments of quiet along with several group moments. I had not watched sunrise in a long time - yes, there were goosebumps. Moving on from there, the fun we had in Las Vegas was a different kind of fun altogether! The best thing about Vegas was that we were able to bring in the young girl inside of all of us - we played dress-up, did make-up and walked in our heels  ( shhhh, no talks needed on how painful it was!). We were younger again, but with a kind of confidence a twenty year old could not have had. That's the beauty about growing into your 30s with secure and healthy relationships around you - you just have a sense of confidence and self-assurance that would surprise your younger self!  Like wine, women get finer with age...don't let anyone tell you otherwise! You are open to trying and doing things without any judgement of yourself and you know exactly what you want out of those experiences. 

Except for lack of sleep there was nothing I'd change in this trip - what this trip gave me is a series of conversations with non-judgemental friends that helped me better understand myself. It helped me open up a little bit more, gave me encouragement and courage to take a few bold steps in my life, helped me reconnect with several old friends that I reminisced those few days with J and N. I came back home feeling recharged and refreshed, happy and humbled, thankful and a bit tired. Most importantly I came back with a little bit of my old self re-instated back in me, the best parts of that old-self anyway.....  

Of course none of this would be possible had it not been for our wonderful husbands. A big kudos goes to them - without them handling kids and home for 3 days and half, we could not get this once in a lifetime experience packed without any mom-guilt!

Next on the list  is a couple of similar trips - I did one with family already but I crave for more of it, and last but most important - a trip with myself. No distraction - just me with my thoughts. Let's see how soon I can make that happen.